It’s not always easy to know how kids feel when their parents get divorced — so local filmmaker Ellen Bruno decided to ask them. Her documentary, “Split,” turns the camera on kids and the range of emotions they feel when parents go their separate ways. We discuss divorce through the eyes of children, and how best to look after them when marriage ends.

We’re Getting Divorced: Now What About the Kids? 26 July,2013forum

Ellen Bruno, award-winning documentary film producer and director of "Split"
Jeff Cookston, professor of psychology at San Francisco State University
Marjorie Slabach, private judge at Marjorie Slabach Private Judging; retired San Francisco Superior Court Commissioner; and certified family law specialist
Claire Barnes, former executive director of Kids' Turn, a non-profit organization to help children and parents through divorce

  • Karim

    Which is worse? Having two douche-bags around or just one? Sometimes a divorce can be a good thing for kids, in that it gets rid of one of the two toxic people in their lives, and makes the parents’ arguments go away too, for the most part.

  • Cathy

    As someone who suffers from abandonment issues due to how my parents divorce played out, I strongly believe that if parents no longer want to be with each other, they should separate rather than stay together for the sake of the children. It’s all how the parents conduct themselves as studies bear out that kids can have very successful relationships later in life. Parents who handle things well, kids learn how to deal with difficult times with respect and strength.

  • Beth Lipski

    I have always been grateful that my parents divorced. It may have been tough to understand as a young child, but as I got older I realized how much more sane it was to not have them stay married. I can remember some of the arguments and in no way would I want my kids to go through what I did. And even if parents try to hide the arguments, kids are far too sensitive to not “sense” that it’s not working.

  • So glad that Ellen Bruno will be on the show. “Split” is a fantastic film and an important one. The kids interviewed are honest and wise; their stories are important not only for other kids to hear, but parents and anyone who is in contact with children experiencing divorce.

  • Marcus

    To: the KQED staff

    From: Marcus C. Pea

    Memo: Belief in Marriage
    Date: July 26, 2013
    Time: 6:35 PM

    MEMO: Divorce, a leading stressful situation for many Americans, needs to reconsider the shared marriage vows and offers many children an opportunity to experience growth process. Children tend to grow up quicker when a divorce takes place among their parents. Divorce couples, however, need to take their vows very seriously in order for a marriage to work

    I think many Americans try to find an easy way out, which leads to departure of a loving couple despite the love that is shared among them. If I offer my hand to a woman for marriage, I plan to stay in a marriage for a lifetime.Keep up the Good Work KQED.

    Please feel free to call or to e-mail me, Marcus C. Pea, at (510) 978-3361 or if time or your present situation allows or permits you, the KQED forum staff, to do so.

    Thank You,

    Marcus C. Pea

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