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I like my men, dogs, and cities with a certain scruffy charm.
San Francisco’s charming – but scruffy? Not so much anymore.
Don’t let the hoodies fool you: there’s expensive hair cuts and skin creams behind there, and the yoga pants are pricey too. Even the head shops are well-kept, and the vaporizers sleek and high-tech.

I met two men on Corona Heights, and our small dogs met, and matched. We stood around the bench admiring the view: the sharp diagonal of Market Street, the rainbow flag at 17th, the buildings punching up into sky, the bay shimmering and Mount Diablo beyond. One of them said “I can’t wait till the Salesforce building gets built!”

I had to ask him to say it again – sure I must have heard him wrong.
I snarled, “I’d like to tear ’em all down!” Then I told them about the drones I had seen being flown off Corona Heights: “Drones, can you believe it?” And he said “Drones, wow, cool!”

I was indignant, but even more, I felt the forces of this place rearranging themselves in a way that did not include me. I was not in favor of buzzing, whining machines in a place of wind and hawks.

But perhaps I’m irrelevant. Perhaps this place changes and moves on. Do you fight the tide, or allow the change, perhaps even move to a different tidal zone? Do I want to preserve what’s great about San Francisco, or am I just that old lady yelling at the kids to get off her proverbial lawn?

The morning had promised heat, but the fog was moving in, licking around my elbows and down my forearms, minty and cool. The air in San Francisco is more bracing than relaxing, and nothing stays still in this town.

With a Perspective, I’m Joy Maulitz.

Joy Maulitz is a San Francisco lawyer, poet and radio host.

No doubt many, if not most, of you are familiar with George Santayana’s admonition that “those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” In fact there should be a corollary stating that those who read enough political commentary are doomed to seeing references to this quote for the rest of their lives.

It’s tempting to take these oft-cited words and invert them into the proposition that knowing history would enable people to avoid making the same mistakes again. But I’m afraid it doesn’t work that way. History casts a long shadow.

But how should we think about history, particularly in a year as potentially momentous as this one?

In this election year some appear to have decided that since history is the record of everything that has already happened it can be rewound like a TV show or movie you’ve recorded: just rewind until you get back to what you thought were the good parts.

For others history appears more frightening. Its ability to replicate, from generation to generation, the same resentments and conflicts suggests that it has its own genetic structure. But now we have entered an era in which we have spliced in new factors such as instantaneous global communication and the ready availability of brutally efficient weaponry. History has, from this perspective, become a genetically modified organism. But just as the introduction of GMOs into our food supply has created what some call Frankenfoods, these changes mean that we are living in Frankentimes, an even more unsettling prospect.

In the end, the problem may be that we have always underestimated the role that we play in history. When we talk about making history we are usually referring to an event or person that changes its course. But each of us makes history every day. It’s the way it happens. History is neither monster nor something that we manipulate, but rather the accumulation of all our actions, no matter how small. And so, now more than ever, our responsibility is to see that we act decently and fairly with each other, because that is what we will leave behind.

With a Perspective, I’m Paul Staley.

Paul Staley lives in San Francisco.

It’s been called the “Leaning Tower of San Francisco.” Like it’s namesake in Pisa, Italy, this tower is listing to one side. However, unlike its 185-foot high Italian cousin constructed in 1372, this tower was completed in 2009. Fifty-eight stories high, the gleaming 645-foot glass and steel skyscraper is the tallest mixed-use residential structure in San Francisco.

It may be big, but there’s a little problem. Since construction, the huge building has sunk 16 inches and is now tilting about 2 inches. In this opulent building, where apartments can rent for $10,000 a month, some residents are feeling slightly nervous. And who wouldn’t, living precariously high above San Francisco’s hip south of Market neighborhood in a tilting tower? As less living-large San Franciscans gaze upwards with schadenfreude, blame’s going around, with theories about causes and remedies being discussed.

And it all seems like a metaphor for San Francisco housing in 2016. Of course, terrifying heights have been a San Francisco symbol since Hitchcock’s “Vertigo.” Now, with both rents and home prices soaring as high as those sleek condos going up on seemingly every corner, nobody’s really on firm footing. Living in a place which has become unaffordable for all except the super-wealthy is bound to leave most of us feeling unstable.

Like that tower, in San Francisco, housing, a basic need, is beginning to tilt dangerously. Everyone has a friend driven out of the city by high rents, and those lucky enough to have locked in low housing know how suddenly their situation could topple. In San Francisco, with an average income of $78,000, few of us could afford to move into one of those shiny new buildings.

A city where housing is largely built for the luxury market, out of reach of most of the people who live and work there, has a foundation as shaky as that leaning tower. And the supply of affordable housing is more unbalanced every day.

The leaning tower of San Francisco may only contain 419 residential units, but when it comes to housing costs, these days, all San Franciscans are tilting and sinking.

With a Perspective, I’m Richard Swerdlow.

Richard Swerdlow teaches in the San Francisco Unified School District.

Walt Whitman once said that a weed was a plant whose useful purpose has not yet been discovered. My dad, on the other hand, said that anything growing in the yard that was not grass was a weed. So basically it comes down to an anthropocentric value judgment. A weed is simply a plant growing where humans do not want it to  at this moment. Often these plants are referred to as "invasive species." This term is defined as "a non-native species whose introduction does or is likely to cause economic or environmental harm or harm to human health."
 
Fennel, German ivy, pampas grass, teasel, yellow star thistle, milfoil, scotch broom, gorse, ice plant, dune grass, cheat grass, Klamath weed and bindweed are just of few of the noxious weeds that have found a nice and permanent home in the Bay Area. Last year, over $85 million was spent in California combating their myriad negative effects.
 
Weeds are hardy generalists. They are adapted to many different habitats. They thrive in disturbed areas like gardens and gravel parking lots and out-compete native plants. Extremely fast growing, weeds reproduce sexually and asexually. Flowers are mostly wind pollinated; the seeds are abundant and small, dispersing readily. And most importantly, these seeds can lay dormant for centuries.

They also reproduce asexually. With long taproots that break off easily, each piece generating a new plant. Or with runners like blackberries or underground stems like crabgrass. Many of them are armed and toxic, and some produce chemicals to inhibit the growth of nearby plants.   
 
Many of our worst weeds are Eurasian in origin. They accompanied the European invasion of this continent. These plants had already spent thousands of years adapting to the severe alterations made to the environment by agrarian societies. In the New World the settlers cleared the primeval forests and plowed the native grasslands. These Eurasian weeds were "pre-adapted" to these severely disturbed habitats and took a firm hold. They have been expanding their range ever since.
 
In short, weeds are some tough plants. Good luck weeding your garden. Weeds bat last!

This is Michael Ellis, with a Perspective.

Michael Ellis is a naturalist who leads tours throughout the world. He lives in Santa Rosa.
 

My chest was tight and I couldn’t breathe–because my spine was pinching my right lung. My classmates passed me on the track. And when all of my friends were done, I still had another lap.

Until that mile run in the seventh grade, I used to pretend my disability wasn’t there. But that day, I realized I’d have to face it.

My doctor told me that one in a million people have multiple pterygium syndrome — a combination of congenital scoliosis and a joint disorder that makes it hard to move my arms and legs. At the age of 10, I went from being a kid who climbed trees and ran just about everywhere, to one who might never play sports again. I felt angry and alone.

Then, I was adopted out of foster care, and eventually my mom took me to wheelchair basketball because she didn’t want me to give up on being active.

I remember my first time in a gym full of other kids with disabilities. Some were making basket after basket from in their wheelchairs, but I was just trying to get used to pushing one for the first time.

From then on, I practiced every Saturday and traveled out of state to compete with other teams. My body changed. Muscles grew. My lung efficiency shot up–I got more air with each breath.

The emotional changes were even more profound. As a former foster kid, I was used to being alone, and not relying on other people, But to improve as part of a team, I had to learn to listen to criticism, be vulnerable, and trust my teammates. Eventually I was able to do the same with my adoptive parents.

My case of scoliosis won’t ever be “fixed.” For a while, it was getting worse. At its most extreme, I couldn’t walk a block without scorching pain. But I stopped seeing my disability as a limitation. Sscoliosis enabled me to be who I am–the athlete, the daughter, the friend.

With a Perspective, I’m Christie Levine.

Christie Levine is 18-years-old and lives in Berkeley. Her commentary was produced by Youth Radio.

Get. A. Job.

These three words are a common reaction-spoken or unspoken-to seeing people on the streets or elsewhere, who are out of work. We would all prefer that people who are homeless stop living on the streets and start earning a paycheck and paying rent. We would all rather see people who are coming out of the prison system transition successfully to jobs rather than end up incarcerated again.
But have you ever asked yourself if you would hire these men and women?

As I know from my work over the past 30 years, tens of thousands of people here in the Bay Area-and millions nationally-want to work but are regularly excluded from the workforce.

Recently, local news outlets banded together to shine a spotlight on homelessness-and while this was the start of increasing empathy for people in need, many lamented the lack of solutions. But in fact there are proven solutions. Of course housing is critical. But so is helping people who face homelessness and other barriers go to work…so they can pay the rent. And we know how to do that. For example, social enterprises are businesses that hire and assist people to overcome barriers, work, and contribute. For every dollar a social enterprise spends, society and taxpayers receive a return of 123%.

Yet I believe real change will happen at the scale needed only when we double down on both providing solutions for people to turn to, and in turn, changing our own hearts and minds to think differently about people struggling on the fringes of our economy. Instead of viewing them as a burden needing help, we can see people who have lived through tough times as having much to contribute, and plenty of motivation because of lessons they’ve learned the hard way. They can be among the most dedicated, hardworking employees when given a chance.

For most of us, Labor Day is about picnics and sales. But for too many people it is a reminder of their exclusion from the workforce. This Labor Day, let’s help make work a reality for all who are willing and able to contribute by hiring and supporting people to gain the dignity that comes with earning a paycheck.

With a Perspective, I’m Carla Javits.

Carla Javits is President and CEO of REDF, which invests in social enterprises- businesses that hire people who otherwise would be shut out of the workforce.

My son has a Snoopy the Dog book that says this on page one: “Just like Snoopy, what you can achieve is limited only by your imagination. You can be anything!” As a parent, this message – that our kids can do anything if they dream big and work hard – is deeply alluring.
But as a psychologist, I find this well-intentioned message distressing. Why?

Telling kids that they can do anything obscures the critical role of chance in success. As Nobel Prize Winner Daniel Kahneman puts it: “Success = Talent + Luck. Great success = A little more talent + A Lot of Luck.”

So skill, and the hard work needed to cultivate a skill, is a key part of success, but luck plays a critical role, too. By luck, I mean all of the varieties of random chance, including opportunity, genetics and circumstances of birth, like poverty.

Despite this hard truth, society often ignores the influence of random chance on success. And herein lies the problem.

When some kids don’t achieve their dreams, those who don’t recognize the role of chance in determining life’s outcomes may blame themselves or stop trying. On the other hand, those who do succeed may overestimate their own role in it, and see those who have average resumes as inferior or less deserving.

It’s simply a statistical fact that not everyone can grow up to be a Supreme Court justice or a best-selling author. Our futures are shaped by many forces beyond our control. Then too, most of us will be average; that’s the definition of average, after all.

But so what? Why do we mourn the idea that our futures are not limitless? Why do so many of us dislike the idea of having average kids?

This is not to say that we parents shouldn’t encourage our kids to dream big and work hard, just that a focus on achievement per se ultimately does kids and ourselves a disservice.

When we create a mindset that high achievement is better than being average, that high achievers are more special or deserving, we diminish our kids’ ability to value both themselves and others.

With a Perspective, I’m Dr. Erica Reischer.

Dr. Erica Reischer is a psychologist, author, and parent coach in Oakland. She is the mother of two.

Franklin Roosevelt said, and Hillary Clinton recently repeated, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” I don’t think so. Fear itself is not particularly frightening, and even if it were, fearing it would not help. Regardless, what we have to fear matters less than what we do with fear. Do we acknowledge or deny it? Does it teach us or rule us?

Among many other things, I fear the glib adages of politicians, adages that seem sensible, comforting, even inspirational but, on reflection, prove to be empty, deceptive, even dangerous, making the speaker seem wise and trustworthy when his words should give the opposite impression. The most dangerous BS is BS that seems like common sense.

In 2004, Barack Obama famously said, “There is no red or blue America; there is only the United States of America.” Thunderously well received at the time and endlessly repeated thereafter, this statement was deceptive, bordering on delusional. It was destructive, too. We were deeply divided then; we are even more deeply divided now; and the notion that we weren’t helped to perpetuate the problem by piling denial on top of it.

However this election turns out, we will remain deeply divided. We will have to struggle to achieve a sufficient consensus to allow us to progress. It won’t be pretty. We can take a modest step forward by subjecting political rhetoric to the strict scrutiny it deserves. Fewer illusions during an election campaign will make for fewer disappointments afterward, when a new President and Congress will actually have to govern and when campaign rhetoric will no longer obscure the difficulty of that task. If we fear anything, let it be the assumption that a working democracy is easy to achieve.

With a perspective, I’m Jeremy Friedlander.

Jeremy Friedlander lives in San Francisco.

There’s a cold civil war brewing in the US and one of the coldest fronts is where factions attempt to draw the line on political correctness, a term that, for all its power these days, perhaps enough to derail our nation’s politics, few people bother to define.

We’re told PC is wrong, but what is it? One vague notion is that it’s taking offense. If you’re offended by what I do, then you’re PC and therefore wrong.

The main target of PC-policing these days is the left, always fretting about things said by right wingers. Many Trump supporters subscribe to this notion. To them, it’s time to throw off the shackles of left-wing hypersensitivity.

There are plenty of hypersensitivities on the right too, but somehow these don’t count. Fox news fretting about gay marriage, Planned Parenthood, and transgender bathrooms. No that’s not PC, that’s just upholding standards.

The United States is an apt oxymoron of a name for our country. Which are we, a united whole, or individual states? It matters, since they’re opposites.

The answer is both and that’s not easy. Individual states, not just the 50, but our diverse states of mind will clash. That’s democracy.

Whenever there’s conflict the question arises: Who is being hypersensitive and who is being insensitive? It can’t be answered by accusing each other of political correctness, since in conflict, we’re all offended. The touchy, toughy anti-PC police as much as admit it, saying “I’m offended that you’re offended.”

I think a better definition of political correctness comes from taking the term literally. Politics is the struggle for power. Correctness is having the 100% right answer

If there’s anything to police in our country, it’s the trump-card self-certainty that the term suggests when read literally. Political correctness is the tendency for any faction to get on its high-horse, certain that it has the 100% correct solution to our country’s challenges, no debate, no negotiation, just civil war with anyone who disagrees with us.

With a Perspective, I’m Jeremy Sherman.

Jeremy Sherman is an author and a blogger for Psychology Today.

The University of Chicago cleverly cloaks the moment parents let go of their freshman in “tradition.” New student orientation week begins with a move-in day, followed by a gathering of freshmen and their parents in the chapel for a lighthearted but meaningful welcome. Bagpipers—seriously, bagpipers!—then lead a procession of parents and students to Hull Gate, also known as “the gate of tears.”

Perhaps you can see where this is going?

Several years ago, I was one of the parents giving the hugs and goodbyes on one side of the gate, through which parents were forbidden to pass. Beyond it, upperclassmen stood cheering the entering class while we parents mopped our eyes and found our way to a reception with some swanky college administrators we might have loved to meet any other day.

At the reception, we were asked not to contact our children for the remainder of the week.

Or maybe that was at the gathering in the chapel. Maybe it was forewarned in the scads of college-bound materials that blur in a memory that holds, instead, to the high school poker gang gathered in my dining room, the physics catapult that wouldn’t launch despite a team bound for Stanford, MIT, Chicago and Boalt, the last late-night talks with my son.

Whatever. It came as a shock to me. But a good shock, in retrospect, and maybe even at the time. The bandage was ripped off. If I had any urge to be a helicopter mom or my husband a drone dad, my son’s school was making it clear: it was time for all good parents to go leave their freshmen children in autonomous mode.

We spend so much of our time and emotional energy on our children that it’s hard to imagine letting go. But parenting is a job that, if we do it well, by definition obsoletes us. Sure, our children may crash against the walls of introductory architecture or multivariable calculus, but that’s rarer than we fear, and we won’t know if we don’t let them go. More importantly, neither will they.

Meg Waite Clayton is a novelist living on the Peninsula.

A while back my friend told me about a fight she had with her mom after a dinner party with other parents, not my own. She told me about how her mother screamed at her, “Isn’t Sophia the one that was having oral sex in the 8th grade?!”

This was the topic of conversation between parents.

To be fair, I did partake in a consensual, sexual relationship with a boy of an appropriate age when I was 14. What’s odd was that, to the best of my knowledge, none of those parents were there when the event in question happened. None of these parents were affected by it. Yet they still needed to discuss my experiences over wine.

I don’t regret any sexual decision I’ve ever made. Nor do I mind if people know.

What I do mind, is when a group of adults disregard their own lives and begin using mine as a discussion topic.

In that moment my body was a weapon in the party game: Slut shame the teenager.

All that’s needed is a few adults, with lives and interests outside of a teenager, and oral sex she may or may not have had. Within hours, those adults were left to nothing but gossiping about the sex life of a teenage girl.

It’s sad, really.

One of the parents tried to friend me on Facebook. I wonder if she knew about the time where her son slid his hand up my thigh, ignoring the “No’s,” the “Stop touching me’s.”

Did she know that he tried to unbutton my jeans? Did she know that we were in class when it happened? Of course she didn’t. I was probably asking for it.

See, these parents are always down for playing trash talk the teenager. Bad-talking girls like me all they want because their kids are the “good kids.” They don’t get into trouble.

No amount of sexual assault will taint their child’s reputation, but one consensual act ruins mine.

So go ahead, play slut shame the teenager. Use my body against me. But know that it is not just my body.

It is your daughter’s body.

It is your sister’s body.

It is every woman’s body.

More importantly it is not your body, and therefore, none of your business.

With a Perspective, I’m Sophia Linda.

Sophia Linda is a high school junior in the Bay Area.

It’s 3:30 in the morning, and I’m sitting in my favorite chair: a crinkled and worn, brown leather recliner. One of our cats has discovered I’m up, and he’s come to say hello. Miles, our 11 year-old springer spaniel, is curled up on his bed beside me, snoring. Otherwise, it’s quiet, except for the distant humming of an appliance, the wind outside and the creaking of the house.

When I find myself unable to sleep through the night, I grab a blanket and stretch out in my chair in the living room, the light beside me casting a warm, yellow glow allowing me to read, pet the cat, or listen to the night sounds of the house.

About 10 years ago I had my first real bout of insomnia. It was dreadful. For two weeks I couldn’t sleep a wink. Things had changed at work, and I just couldn’t let it go. As each day passed into night, I felt more pressure to arrest this new pattern and finally tumble into sleep. Deep, beautiful sleep. But the more I tried, the harder it became. I was caught in a vicious cycle of my mind. I became desperate and found myself in the ER one night, begging the doctor for relief. He gave it to me in the form of a shot. Finally, my prayers were answered.

But I had entered a new phase of my life. No longer would I take sleep for granted. I created new routines and formed a novel appreciation for the tenuous patterns of the mind.

My relationship with sleep has now evolved to a place where when I wake up in the middle of the night – and by no means does this occur every night – I don’t fight it. I just go with it. It’s strange, but now I almost treasure those nights I find myself in my chair, a cat in my lap, my dog at my feet, a good book in my hands.

It’s actually the best time.

With a Perspective, I’m Pete Gavin.

Pete Gavin teaches 8th grade English at Kent Middle School in Kentfield.

I recently returned from a fishing trip to Northern California. I head up there three or four times a year, like thousands of others, to put myself in that beautiful place where nature is mostly untroubled by human intervention.

I call it a fishing trip, and spend most days with a fly rod splashing through the streams and lakes, but my thrill with these trips isn’t about fish. It’s the way I feel when I’m away from the chaos of city life and closer to that place we all came from.

We are all products of the same raw materials as the trees and the mountains, the ospreys and the bears, and of course, the trout. Thanks to Charles Darwin, Albert Einstein and others, we know that we all started as molecules and atoms that through time evolved into astonishingly complex organisms, some who fly, some who swim, and some who think in logical ways. Redwood trees or daffodils, people or bugs, we’ve all made the long journey together.

When we can manage to get away from the man-made things — skyscrapers, bridges, smartphones — and put ourselves among the creatures of nature our bodies and minds seem to remember those beginnings. We become possessed of the calmness of homecoming. I am grateful for stunning architecture, lifesaving medications, electronic marvels, but art and science inspire a different kind of wonder.

That’s why so many of us take ourselves and our families camping or backpacking. We endure the discomfort of tossing around in a bedroll, drinking lousy coffee from a tin cup, shivering in the morning frost, because it’s the only way our minds and our spirits return to that place where we all began.

I’ll be heading back up to the lake in a few weeks. For the first few hours I’ll be dodging semis on I-5. But when I head west into the Trinity Alps, or east into the Cascades, even though my GPS will tell me that I have driven far from where I live, I’ll be coming home.

With a Perspective, I’m Larry Murphy.

Larry Murphy is the retired owner of an Irish pub who lives in Sonoma with his wife, Rose.

Where did we ever get the idea that we’re perfect? I used to think that speaking in public was the one thing that was feared more than death, but after twenty years of trying to get people to resolve their problems by talking with each other, I’ve come to the conclusion that admitting one has made a mistake now occupies the top spot.

The amount of creativity and time wasted by working around this simple act is enough to solve both our energy and employment problems in one swoop. The trust and fellowship that is lost would fill a black hole in space. “Hey, I screwed up” often is enough to put an end to a dispute, and when it isn’t, it’s a good start toward a resolution. Sometimes, it leads to an apology; sometimes, to creating an atmosphere where people are not afraid to give and receive helpful ideas. This applies to relationships across the board: whether it’s a presidential candidate speaking to the electorate, co-workers, marital partners, strangers or friends. You open up, people open up to you.

When Alexander the Great crossed from Europe to Asia, he stopped at a town called Gordium, famous for a huge rope set in a cart that was so intricately knotted that no one had ever been able to untie it. The legend had grown that whoever succeeded in doing this would conquer the world. Alexander strode up to the cart, took one look at the knot, and wasted no time considering what would happen if he pulled this or that strand here or there, or in working out some clever circumvention or self-serving excuse or blaming his failure on somebody else. He had a world to win and only 10 years in which to do it. He drew his sword, and with a single stroke put an end to the knotty problem. And then he went on to conquer pretty much the entire known world.

Alexander might not have made the connection, but if a demi-god, someone close to perfection, could display such humility, isn’t there a chance that we, too, might resolve many of our problems – very few as entangled as Gordian Knots – with a simple “It was my mistake”?

With a Perspective, I’m Richard Friedlander.

Richard Friedlander is a mediator and actor in the East Bay.

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